Caring Bill of Rights
- To take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capability of taking better care of my loved one.
- To seek help from others even though my loved one may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
- To maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I provide care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything I can for this person and have have the right to do some things just for myself.
- To get angry, be depressed and express other difficult feelings occasionally, as long as I'm not hurting anyone else.
- To be neutral and compassionate of any attempt by my loved one [either conscious or unconscious] to manipulate me through guilt, anger or depression.
- To receive consideration, affection, forgiveness and acceptance for what I do for my loved one, as long as I offer these qualities in return.
- To take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken me to meet my needs and the needs of my loved one.
- To protect my individuality and my right and gift to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my loved one no longer needs my full time help.